Over the next four weeks we are going to discuss four steps towards purity for you to discuss with your teens. God has placed on my heart a huge desire to share with teens about purity. It seems to be the biggest struggle they have This week, lets talk about the gateway to impure thoughts … the eyeballs! This week is going to be very simple. It’s going to focus on one action we can take to keep our eyes focused where they belong.
Just because you look at someone and find them to be attractive, doesn’t mean you are heading down the road to lust. There are all sorts of things in this world that are appealing to the eye. I used to work at an Aston Martin dealership. For those of you that don’t know Aston Martin’s are the cars James Bond has driven in pretty much every one of his 22 films. They are … spectacular. They also run about $260k. My eyes were attracted to those cars, but as time went on and I spent countless hours of my life day dreaming about winning the lotto to buy a fleet of them, my eyes lusted after those cars.
Matthew 5:28 says, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
So this big problem starts with our eyeballs. They are the gateway! Steve Arterburn, the author of “Every Young Man’s Battle” and “Every Young Woman’s Battle” shares about the tendancy people have (especially guys) to look at people with lust. He talks about doing something that seems completely opposite to human nature when we start looking at someone with lust.
BOUNCE YOUR EYES
We live in a world that suggests looking is acceptable. But Dr. Arturburn has this to say, “The problem is that your eyes have always bounced toward the sexual, and you’ve made no attempt to end this habit. To combat it, you need to build a reflex action by training
your eyes to immediately bounce away from the sexual, like the jerk of your hand away from a hot stove.”
It may sound simple. You may be saying to yourself “I’m glad I just wasted three minutes of my life to dig up that gem.” But it seemed to work for Job. After all he said, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl” (Job 31:1). It also works for really well for another guy I know … me.
It doesn’t happen over night. It may take weeks or months. But it’s possible. The world has just been telling us it isn’t for too long.