Teenagers have a pretty messed up idea of what it means to be pure. Look at everything around them. Take Lady Gaga for instance. Have you seen this woman on tv? She is 2010’s version of Madonna. In fact she’s more like Madonna on steroids. Take that back. She’s Madonna on horse steroids! Lady Gaga is just one of the million ungodly, sex driven influences in teens’ lives.
Over the next four weeks we are going to talk about purity in four simple steps. My advice isn’t the end all be all list of information youth leaders need to get their kids on the right path. You may have even heard or implemented some of this before. But it’s always good to refresh our minds on this stuff. The first step is…
Explain Why Purity Matters
With everything bombarding kids’ ears and eyes it’s no wonder they haven’t a clue how to strive for purity. But there are a few things we can say to show them why it matters. Start at the beginning.
1) God’s Character Demands Holiness
The Lord commands us to “be holy, because I am holy.” He also warns us that “out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, [and] sexual immorality.” Romans 13:13 calls us to “…behave decently … not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.”
2) Immorality Leads to Problems
Maybe you are dealing with some kids that just don’t care about God’s standard, or God’s broken heart. But sexual immorality outside of marriage will break their hearts. Working at Teen Quest, students constantly come to us totally beat to smithereens emotionally because of what they do with their boyfriends and girlfriends. Some kids may actually try to justify using pornography because they are not physically having sex with someone, but it just causes them to see people as objects. They also have no idea what it can do to them later down the road. When they have multiple partners, it can become a tough thing to work through once they are married.
3) Our Identity Should Be In Christ
So much of what makes kids act out sexually comes from within their needs. Sure kids do it because of the way it makes them feel, but there is more to it than that. Girls tend to get sexually involved with their boyfriends because they want the love and affection of a male. Lot’s of the time their dad isn’t in the picture and that compounds this need. Guys on the other hand are having sex for the acceptance of their friends. They see how many notches they can get on their belt and they compare their triumphs to those of other guys. But the Word of God shows us our identity and worth shouldn’t be in a sexual partner. Romans 8:17 tells us we are “heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ.” In John 10:11 Christ said He was the “good shepherd” Who “lays down His life for the sheep.” The God of the universe wants us to know that in Christ He looks at us as “joint-heirs” of His kingdom. We are children of the perfect King! He loved us so much that He died for us.
When we can explain these three important truths to teens we may actually play a role in planting a seed of purity in their hearts. When they see that their worth is in their Lord and not fulfilling the lustful desires of their significant other, that’s when hearts change!